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The Serenity Prayer, First Corollary

God grant me ...
the serenity to accept the people I cannot change...
the courage to change the one I can ...
and the wisdom to know it's me.

You're likely to be familiar with the opening lines of Reinhold Niebuhr's poem The Serenity Prayer. As you probably noticed, the lines opening this post are not the lines as Neibuhr wrote them, but an insightful and inspirational corollary (source unknown) that I've found be every bit as powerful Neibuhr's original verse.  More »

The Babemba Tribe and Delinquent Behavior

Image - circle of unityWhen a person acts irresponsibly or unjustly, he/she is placed in the center of the village, alone ... All gather around the accused individual ... Then each person of every age, begins to talk out loud to the accused. One at a time, each person tells all the good things the one in the center ever did in his/her lifetime.  Every incident, every experience that can be recalled with any detail and accuracy, is recounted. The tribal ceremony often lasts several days, not ceasing until everyone is drained.... Necessity for such ceremonies is rare!"
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A picture may be worth a thousand words ... and .. (Video: 0:1:48)

Image-Man beggingA friend passed this along to me. Someday, I'll probably add additional commentary to this post. For now, this will do: change your words -- change your world!  More »

Looking for signs of change: An experiment in living appreciatively

First, ponder the First Corollary to The Serenity Prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change … the courage to change the one I can … and the wisdom to know it's me.” In this instance, it is all about you … in the best of senses.    More »

The Elevating Experience of Watching Team Hoyt in Action (Video - 10:00)

Dick and Rick Hoyt (Team Hoyt) are a father and son athletic team, triatheletes, and you will probably never see another duo like them participating in this strenuous sport. Watch them compete and listen to their story, and chances are you'll experience the positive emotion psychologist Jonathan Haidt calls Elevation, right down to the "tears of celebration" that typically accompany it.  More »

The positive emotion of Elevation

Psychologist Jonathan Haidt defines elevation as a positive emotion "elicited by acts of virtue or moral beauty; it causes warm, open feelings ... in the chest; and it motivates people to behave more virtuously themselves ...."

Haidt and his collaborators conducted two controlled studies, one in which they asked participants to "think of a specific time when you saw a manifestation of humanity's 'higher' or 'better' nature" and the other in which they we induced elevation by having participants watch video clips of Mother Teresa. They report that in both studies, participants in whom elevation was evoked  More »

Use positive emotions to overcome negativity: Dr. Barbara Fredrickson (Video - 6:34)

In this YouTube video, Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, winner of the American Psychological Association’s inaugural Templeton Prize in Positive Psychology, discusses her research on positive emotions. Dr. Fredrickson is one of the most acclaimed researchers in the field of positive psychology--if not the most acclaimed.  More »

Can things breakdown ... even when I'm living appreciatively?

Breakdown Image - a flat tireSomewhere along the way, I picked up the notion that when life was going as I wanted it to go, I would find myself riding on a smooth and uninterrupted trajectory, moving forever forward and upward in a spiral of bliss, joy. and all that other good stuff.

It's taken me a while to realize that making adjustments as I journey along is an integral aspect of living the good life.  More »

Stand by Me (Video 5:27)

Image-Birds under Momma's WingswIn 1961, Ben E. King recorded a song for the ages, Stand by Me, listed by BMI as the 4th most performed song of the 20th century, and ranked number 121 among Rolling Stone Magazine's 500 Greatest Songs of All Time.

I was touched by Stand By Me on hearing King sing the song when it was first released, and I listened to it over and over again, and each time I was touched deeply by what I heard  I remembered being touched again when I heard Stand by Me sung in the 1986 movie Stand by Me which is set in the year my class entered senior year in high school (1959.)  And then a year or two ago I came across this version of Stand by Me and it elevated the song and the emotions it evoked to whole different level.  More »

Celebrating what's right with the world

If you have an interest in positive psychology, appreciative inquiry, positive organizational scholarship, appreciative living, and other related approaches to creating and promoting a flourishing life,watch Dewitt Jones' 22 minute, tour de force video, Celebrate what's right with the world. It's a pathway to being in touch, at a fundamental, gut-level level with what appreciation and positivity is all about.

Every time I've watched this video since, I've been as inspired as I was that very first time. I continue to uncover deeper levels of meaning each time around.  More »

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